What makes you want to have children?

I had asked this question on my other blog hosted on a Russian website of my Russian friends and co-bloggers.
And I got really amazing inspirational and insightful answers from both single people and married women with kids, married women without kids, those that decided they didn’t want to have kids and those who don’t want to have kids just yet.
I understood each person’s point. I’ve been there: single not being able to imagine having a kid, where pregnancy would be about one of the worst things that could happen to me. Married but so happy with our married life that I felt absolutely no need to have kids just yet. Also wanting kids but not sure if we should have kids, that we should change our life drastically.

So now I thought I’d ask the same question of my blog readers: moms and future moms alike.
What made you want to have a baby? Was it planned becauseΒ  the time was right? Was it unplanned and how did it change your life? What would you tell yourself a few years ago when you were childless and having fun now that you know what it’s like to be on both sides?

All answers are welcome, whether you’re overwhelmed with responsibility and not sure if life would have been easier without or if it’s the best thing that could have happened to you!
I’m not looking for religious answers or that children are gifts from God. I want to hear true-life feelings and emotions, rationalizations and doubts.
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In the meantime I’d like to post these pictures of a beautiful family I know who has their second child a months ago ( both unplanned). These wereΒ shot by me behind the scenesΒ  of a photoshoot by my friend Leeka from MM Works. It was freeeeeezing that day on the beach. I felt so bad about little baby Alex who was only a few weeks old. In between the shooting, i’d take him from his mother and hug him tightly to warm me up and he’s fall asleep in my arms each time.

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    Jen
    December 18, 2010 at 9:02 PM

    My decision to have my son was the best decision I ever made. There is NO love like the love you feel for your child. It is stunning and awe inspiring for me. Yes, you make sacrifices, (lots of them), but I still feel like these years, (when my son is little), are the best of my life.
    That being said, I am so glad my husband and I did some traveling while it was just the two of us. It is next to impossible to travel when kids are young, but hopefully, we’ll get to do more traveling when my son is older.

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    Ashley Sisk
    December 18, 2010 at 9:51 PM

    I’ve always known that I’ve wanted children. If for some reason, we can’t have them on our own, we’ll adopt but I feel that I was meant to have children in my life. Before I came along, my husband was prepared to adopt on his own. I’m not sure that I have a really well-thought answer other than it’s just meant to be. I can’t hardly wait!

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    Halie
    December 18, 2010 at 11:50 PM

    We don’t have kids yet, but I would love to have even just one soon. I love the look on those cute little faces, watching them grow and of course being able to teach them good values. I’d like to have children who would do good to others as much as they do good for themselves. And yes, I’m green with envy when I see moms holding their children securely in their arms. =)

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    Camille
    July 3, 2012 at 3:46 PM

    Our daughter was unplanned… But somehow when I found out I was pregnant, it suddenly seemed like the perfect time for her. We were not prepared at all, but I knew we could be by the time she came, and I was just extremely happy. I think it’s different for everyone and all parents get there in different ways, at different times, and that’s ok. πŸ™‚

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      July 3, 2012 at 5:22 PM

      You know it’s funny because before Alexis I could not imagine getting pregnant accidentally. Now that I know how awesome having a baby is, it doesn’t terrify me. I would just make sure I always take proper vitamins and not drink alcohol if there is even a tiny chance that I could be pregnant.

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