I am SICK of hearing people complain about “perfection”. You see that everywhere. Every other blog post, every other article, every other comment tries to show how wrong it is to display only beautiful things, right things, perfect things. That we need to show “REAL LIFE”.
Well, guess what for some people IT IS real life. Some people ARE beautiful, some people are fit and have great bodies, some people have spotless and pinterest worthy homes. I know people like that! And it IS a reality for them.
What is this belief that if things aren’t exactly how you have them and how you’re used to them, then instantly it’s fake and wrong and it’s not showing the reality or MY FAVORITE: “sets up the wrong expectations for other women”?
If I read in one more place how someone or something sets up the wrong expectations….
No one sets up any wrong expectations other than the person with those expectations themselves. PERIOD!
People do not owe each other to be less “perfect” than they are, JUST SO other women (and it’s an issue with women more than men) wouldn’t feel so bad about themselves.
When are we going to stop coddling everyone? Or more importantly, when will people stop being so easily offended and stop feeling, like they don’t measure up. For gos’s sake get some f*&$ing self-esteem!
If your parents didn’t do their job instilling in your that you’re amazing as long as you work hard at what you do, then do that for your self. Read some books, talk to a therapist, but stop blaming blogs, friends, TV, celebrities for your own feelings of inadequacy.
Personally I am generally very happy with myself and my life, and by some other people’s measurements my life isn’t perfect. My house is ALWAYS messy. Do you know why? Because I don’t give enough f*%$ to waste the time constantly cleaning it. I would much rather spend time with Lexi, or work or blog or read or travel or spend time with friends, or enjoy the outdoors, or do anything that is more self-fulfilling than cleaning. And I am ok with that. I am ok with my house, looking like a hurricane has passed through most of the time. I’d like it to be better but I realize it simply can’t. Because I have other priorities. And I know people who have spotless houses and I admire them and wish I had enough time to be like them. But I don’t. That’s a reality for ME. Not for them. I don’t hate on them for having what I don’t.
I am not a designer and I don’t have time pining over designs and making them into life or money to hire a professional, so my house is a mish-mash of styles. And you know what? I don’t give a f&^%, because I know my limitations and I also know my priorities…
That doesn’t make me feel inferior to anyone with a immaculate house for one second. I wish my house could be like theirs, I love what they have done with it, but I just know I can’t do it. Not now.
I don’t have time to have perfect hair. OMG my hair is a rat’s nest most of the time, because again priorities.
I have no sense of style. I try, but it is really hard for me, so I just end up looking meh and in awe of those that can put together an outfit that looks great. I end up wearing dresses most of the time, because there is no styling involved.
There are people that take way better pictures than me, and have superior writing styles. People who are better at all things that I think I am good at, and I often look at their results wistfully knowing I will never be that good. Or have the time to be that good.
I would like to, but I just can’t. And I am ok with that.
What I am not ok with, and what annoys me beyond belief when I see it is other people hating on awesomeness under the disguise of some white knight agenda of protecting women from “wrong expectations”.
For some women, it IS “real life” to have a thin body after 4 kids, pinterest worthy homes, personal assistants… And for others, it is real life to gain weight as they get older, have a 10 year old couch, no budget to travel beyond a grocery store and a baby that just won’t sleep through the night with no family help. As long as we are happy within ourselves and with our circumstances, it’s all good.
Be awesome! Make it “real life” for you! Kick ass! Stop Hating! Accept yourself! Inspire and Empower other women!
That’s my rant/PSA for today! Mucho Love!
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