So we are done with TTCing for this month. I have no idea whether I am pregnant or not. I also have no idea whether I could be pregnant. My BBT sort of gave out on me this month. The temperatures are making no sense, but I did switch the time when I take it, so I don’t know. I’m usually pretty regular with my ovulation, so we’ll see. Also since we’re trying the Shettle’s method that has us TTCing 2-3 days BEFORE ovulation, I don’t think there’s a big chance that I could be pregnant this month.
And I am totally OK with that.
It’s kind of funny because I always read that “sex on schedule” will be boring and a chore. It couldn’t be far from the truth for us. We had so much fun trying that, honestly, it would be just fine if we get to do it next month {wink wink}. We both found it fun and exciting and couldn’t wait to get out hands on each other. I realize it’s the first month only, but I don’t see this getting old 🙂
Right now, hubster is super protective of me, which I love (in case I am pregnant, his words too, not mine). He is the one telling me that we have to think of it like it already happened, and think good positive thoughts. I am in the process of reading a fascinating book about the life of unborn babies and how our moods and feelings influence them and I re-tell him everything I find interesting. He has taken it so seriously, and asks me every hour how I am feeling and whether I’m positive and happy 🙂
So honestly, this rocks!
However, I am being very pragmatic and realistic, and not keeping my hopes up, because I know the average chances are 25%, plus the fact that we’re avoiding the ovulation day and one before, and that probably takes it down to 5% or so.
We will keep on trying if it doesn’t happen this month or next and I will notify all of you as soon as it happens.
Oh and here’s what I decided about “to tell or not to tell” dilemma:
I am not a secretive person, and I hate keeping things from people because that makes me feel conniving. Plus, this blog is specifically a baby blog, so it’d be silly to ignore the first 3 months of pregnancy and not journal here.
So I decided to annouce it here within a week or two of getting a positive pregnancy test (or earlier). However, I will not post it on Facebook or other social networks, neither will I tell anyone outside of this blog except for my family.
My closest friends, who I love and want to know about it, already read this blog. I will, though, make sure to tell them personally as soon as I find out. The rest are people I do not know in person, so I am not afraid of judgement or anything like this- and I’d love support and feedback.
Those people that I wouldn’t want to know, in case that a miscarriage occurs, do not know about this blog.
So I think I feel pretty comfortable with that.
{I was going through our wedding photos and re-editing them and I bumped into this one. I love it and it’s so fitting: showing the beginning or our relationship, the excitement and the beginning of our new chapter in life}
Well, of course it’s fun… at first.
But after three years of staying fit and healthy, never going near alcohol, drugs, or anything remotely dangerous, perfectly calculated baby-making sex (with a good dash of “let’s not chart this month and just have fun!” here and there)… and no baby to show for it, even the best of bedroom relations might start to crack and splinter.
I hope, hope, hope that you get your baby SOON! I am not trying to be a debbie-downer, but the truth of the matter is that you sound so much like us it isn’t even funny. We were (are) both young and healthy. We got checked up, checked out… We did everything right; we’re still doing everything “right.”
What we didn’t factor in were two incomprehensible words: “unexplained infertility.”
A term that I don’t really believe in– but three years later, and here we are, still looking for answers.
Fingers crossed for you and your husband!
Well keep enjoying it! We decided to go on a European vacation in September. I’m throwing away the pills that month. I don’t want to be sick during that time. But you look adorable here!
Bred kakoj-to!Ya napisala chto vidimo bil kakoj-to gluk,potomu chto ves’ tvoj post ya videla na lomannom russkom(kak bydto cherez perevodchik);) no sejchas stal po anglijski otobrozhat’sia;))))
I cannot wait to hear the news! From now on, for every blog post, I am going to be wondering if it’s the one! The announcement. Such an exciting and special time for you all right now. I will live vicariously through you since my baby maker is currently shut off!
Sounds great! You MUST share some more wedding pics! 🙂
I’m so blessed to know you and get to read your blog. 🙂 I also love that your friend Nastia in her comment used the multiple-smiles smiley – like this: : )))) – because all my Russian-speaking Kazakh friends do that, too! I love it!
Glad to hear you’re having fun, and praying for good things.
Just came across your blog. Congratulations, what an exciting time for you. I’m glad you conceived so quickly. Schedule sex DOES get old, and can damage a relationship. Here’s hoping you’ll never have to experience it.
Thank you so much! I know how many couples struggle with infertility. I was sure it would take us at least 4-6 months to conceive, if not longer. I guess we were lucky…