I wrote a post and the Internet blew up. At first, I did not understand why people were being so sensitive about a simple motivational post. I mean, I love the “kick-ass, get over yourself, do better” type of rhetoric, that is what gets me going.
If something does not apply to me, I just move on. So if people aren’t in a position to “learn a new skill or start a business” then it doesn’t apply to them, nothing to see here. And then it hit me…
So I am here to apologize to my followers for my previous message. I understood something wasn’t obvious to me at first. So hear me out…
See, as a blogger, I want to share all of the parts of myself. My thoughts, my struggles, my annoyances, my hobbies, my businesses. There are so many parts to me, as a person, just like to everyone else, than just being a mom ( which is why I keep sneaking travel stuff in, because that’s what my life looks like and why I created a separate travel blog to keep it separate, because I know it’s not a reality for many) . So I go on and share stuff, forgetting completely the demographic that is actually following me on this particular blog: moms, a lot of times with multiple kids, who suddenly have to work from home AND educate their children. Ugh, I suck!
It was absolutely insensitive of me to post it on that particular page. This is a family-oriented blog and page and sometimes I forget that. I sometimes treat it as a PERSONAL blog because there are so many more facets to all of us than family and children, it’s natural to do it. But the truth of the matter is that it started as a pregnancy/baby/family blog and that is what you expect here.
Forgive me for forgetting that a lot of you are mainly still dealing with parenthood, multiple children, being new to homeschooling, husbands at work, etc. I actually laughed at myself when I realized how misguided posting this message on that particular page was. “What the fuck were you thinking, Elena? It’s like posting about alcohol on AA website.” Huge eye roll at myself. ( I did not really think, to be honest)
See, sometimes I forget.
I AM in a little bubble of businesses and working hard and kicking ass and ra-ra-ra motivation 24/7.
I am surrounded by people who all have the same non-emotional “Kick-Ass” mentality.
I read lots of self-improvement and motivational books ( listen to them actually).
I teach Lexi productivity and how to handle emotions and make sure they don’t interfere with your functioning.
My editor in chief is more of a hardass than I am when it comes to this kind of stuff with “just get it done” attitude ( and she has 4 kids and an immuno-compromised husband, so she’s literally my idol)
My virtual assistant is a no-nonsense girl with 3 small kids whose husband is often deployed and she works from home
My boyfriend is an ENTJ ( same as me) who was nicknamed a drill sergeant and has the same mindset of “GO GO GO!”
I run a team of 20 girls with Monat, where my job is to motivate and help and encourage them to be better and to succeed. Our larger team leaders do the same for me.
I only watch educational motivational business videos that help me be even more fired up and excited to be productive, to do more and do it better.
So the messaging all around me is always the same. That is my life. So from inside that bubble, it’s hard to see that someone might be in a different reality and I realize that now. This was NOT the place to express this side of me. And it’s so damn easy to forget because it’s all that I hear and think 24/7 and am surrounded by people who think the same way.
So I apologize if that post gave you anxiety, or feelings of inadequacy or like I am judging in any way, that was AT ALL NOT MY INTENTION. My intention was to motivate and I forgot that this is NOT a place for business motivation, for “get over yourself” rhetoric, even if it’s something that I can relate to and something that helps me personally. You did not come here for business and self-improvement motivation
And one might argue that “Well it’s my blog, I should be able to post whatever I want”, which is true as a general statement. But in this case, it’s just not the right place for it and I realize that and again, I am sorry!
I am always your girl if you need help with
+ business matters
+ if you want to start a business
+ if you want to make money from home
+ get some motivation.
In those cases, come to me and I will be happy to help.
But here, it was really dumb of me to hit the “publish” button without first thinking about how this message might be received by this specific demographic of moms who are suddenly being thrown into working and teaching their kids from home. And for that I am sorry!