First of all, I’d like to say how UNBELIEVABLY TOUCHED I am by all the response we received on our gender reveal. It is absolutely humbling and mind-boggling how many people care and were anxious to see it. I want you to know that I love and appreciate every single one of you. All your comments were read and RE-read multiple times with a huge smile. Thank you so much! I will try to respond to most of them over the next week!
And hey, we all crashed my server! Isn’t it just the best way to celebrate our baby‘s “coming out”?
How far along: 19 weeks.
How big is baby: The size of a large heirloom tomato. Her sensory development is exploding! Her brain is designating specialized areas for smell, taste, hearing, vision, and touch.
Total weight gain: 1 pound (144lb) this week, for a total of approximately 8 pounds from the start of the pregnancy.
Sleep: It’s been pretty good if you don’t count the day I stayed up till 4:30am editing the gender reveal video.
Best moment of the week:
Finding out the health and sex (see under Gender) of our baby:
It was one of the long awaited days for us. I was really nervous about the anatomy scan and anxious to hear whether our little baby is a boy or a girl.
The anatomy scan was excellent, the baby measured perfectly, so did my cervix ( I can breathe easier about my unfounded fear of incompetent cervix). I wasn’t given the specifics just that the baby is measuring about 4 days ahead (and they’re going by my LMP which I know is 2 days off, so by conception date, she is measuring 6 days ahead), so today I went over the ultrasound images and measurements and found some numbers and statistics on the Internet. The baby‘s head diameter (BPD) is in the 88th percentile, the Femur Length (FL, the longest bone in our body) is in the 93rd percentile ( which probably means our baby is going to pretty tall like her parents), the Abdominal circumference (AC) is in the 35th percentile. The last number sort of concerned me, even though it’s considered to be in the normal range, but the doctor assured me that considering how naturally thin and tall I am, my baby is displaying the same characteristics. My amniotic fluid levels are perfect, and everything else looks great!
Food cravings :
No cravings whatsoever. At some point I wanted chocolate ice-cream, and after half a cup that came to an end.
Food aversions: I think I am finally getting over all the left-over aversions. Many of them were just mental, left from morning sickness days. I am happy to be back eating Romaine and making my daily home-made ceasar salads.
Pregnancy brain – Now that I am aware that I forget things, I’ve been trying to pay more attention to it and remembering more things. Still I really hope it’s a temporary state.
Being out of breath – pretty much after any activity.
Stretchmarks – none.
Heartburn – Oh I’ve been doing really really good with it ( or might I say without it). I’m really hoping it won’t come back (oh hell, who am I kidding?)
Skin – Still there, still broken out.
Cramping – I’ve been feeling occasional mild cramping. I don’t like it, but I assume it’s either round ligament pain or like the doc said, braxton hicks.
I feel her all the time. Her favorite time of the day is when I’m sitting at my computer around 12-1pm. Oh, she has such a blast and once in a while kicks long enough and strongly enough for me to call hubby over and have him feel it. He loves feeling her kick and he loves talking to her. He doesn’t know any lullabies except for Rockabye Baby and we don’t like that one so he sings “Free Falling” and that’s just so adorable to watch.
Finding out the sex of our baby
This was a lot more emotional than I ever imagined it to be.
I was almost ok waiting to hear the sex of our baby until we get the paint and film everything. I was nervous and anxious but it wasn’t too hard to wait. We were also both thinking that there is a good possibility it is a boy ( even though we’ve always thought it was a girl), based on the ultrasound tech’s comment that she’s 100% sure of the result, which usually means she saw a penis.
So we were going home, really not knowing at that point whether it’s a boy or a girl.
I gotta tell you though, I didn’t expect to cry BEFORE opening that can of paint. I thought I’d get teary when I find out, but I didn’t think it’d hit me SO HARD before. The reason why I did break down before finding out the sex was because at that moment I realized that when I open the can, our unknown, almost hypothetical baby will turn into a PERSON with a NAME and a SEX, our baby, our little girl, who I can finally try to picture and imagine our life with. That realization hit me so hard, with all the love that I’ve been storing for this baby– it was like there’s no turning back- I am in love and putting a face and a name on that hypothetical love made it SSSOOOOO REAL and made it HURT SO GOOD. And everytime I’d think about opening that can and finding out there is a little boy or a little girl inside of me, I’d just start crying.
I have to say that both me and my husband are SOOOO in love with Alexis at this point. It’s funny how that happens: you plan a pregnancy, you get pregnant, you see the baby on the ultrasound and you think you love that baby. But for me it wasn’t until I could put a name and a sex to that baby that I understood how MUCH she really means to me. I can only imagine what it is going to be like at birth!
Speaking of birth, I am actually looking forward to it. Somehow I have no fear of pain, I have no fear things not going the way I want them to. All I care about is getting that baby into this world safely and quickly. I am completely mentally prepared for any favorable outcome: natural birth, epidural, pitocin, C-section ( though I would really like to avoid the last two as much as possible, I realize sometimes things happen that are outside of your control).
What I’m looking forward to:
Starting to work on the nursery. I’ve been planning it for a few weeks, with the assumption that it’s a girl, but of course haven’t bought anything gender specific, in case it was going to be a boy. Now I can start putting things together more seriously. Can’t wait to have Andrew paint the room!
Getting more organized. I’ve been putting baby items I found interesting into my private amazon wish list. I’d like to finish that and make decisions, and maybe a few purchases.
Getting our first baby items ( that will make it a lot more real)
I am absolutely shocked by how generous our friends have been. Even the ones that aren’t the closest friends or live far away from us have been buying baby stuff from the registry ( and expensive stuff I might add). It makes me feel soooo loved! Most of our friends live far enough away that even if we decided that we want to do a baby party ( our version of baby shower, co-ed and much more fun), they wouldn’t be able to attend and yet they keep buying us gifts. I cannot wait to thank them all!
What I miss:
Nothing at the moment! I feel happy and complete.
Next appt: October 6th
Question: Would you enjoy seeing the progress of the nursery as we’re working on it or one grand reveal once we are completely done?
Oh and I almost forgot to mention: