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There’s something I’d like to say about the direction this blog is headed in. A reader brought to my attention that she expected to see more parenting/baby posts when Alexis showed up and she’s absolutely right! I’m sure many of you are wondering about the same thing, so I thought I’d address it.

This HAS been and WILL be a blog about bringing Lexi into this world and her babyhood as seen through my eyes, along with my personal blog full of things I care about, as well.

For some reason, though, for the past two weeks I have had sort of a writer’s block when it comes to all things Alexis.

I have been feeling like I don’t have enough time to write the kind of posts I want to. I have a million topics in my head ( first bath, first walk, beach outing, infant massage, breastfeeding, time management, one day with Lexi, cloth diapers,etc) and even more photos, but I feel overwhelmed when I even think about starting to write something this big and important. She changes so much each day and there’s so much I can write about that when it comes to getting a post out, I start feeling like I only have time to write some less time consuming post that doesn’t take much thought. I know it’s a cop out and I’m working on it.

It doesn’t help that when it comes to certain things, I’m a perfectionist. To the point where it prevents me from doing things. I keep thinking “Oh I’ll do this post when I have better photos” or “…when I have more time to really express how I feel”. The excuses are endless…

For example the breastfeeding post… Oh my god! It’s SUCH a big issue, so much to say…  I can’t get myself started on it because I know I can’t even make as dent in it in the 10-15 minutes Alexis gives me. So I keep postponing  writing it!

So what I’m trying to say is I need to do better. Not for my readers, per se, but for myself, which is why this blog exists.

I need to get short posts out quicker, I need to not worry if a post is valuable from the information standpoint (I know… how stupid!), I need to just write and attach a photo or two. Quick bursts of thoughts and happenings. About Alexis, about parenthood, about things that are new to me. Because the memories and experiences will fade with time and I won’t have the kind of record of her life that I want to.

That being said, I will still write about things that are not “mommy” related. Motherhood doesn’t define me. I still like shopping, photography, pretty things, beach, my friends, travel, video editing. I’ll write about all these things as well – they just won’t dominate my blog like they have been for the past 2 weeks.

I will also continue running the BEST FOR BABY feature because these are the items I find useful and the companies I believe in and I want to pass that onto whoever cares. I remember liking these types of posts back when I was pregnant because I was lost in the sea of baby products and had no real way of finding health conscious and/or cool baby brands. And the giveaways is my way of giving something of value to people reading, something that I myself recommend and use (and it’s an amazing feeling when a regular reader I know wins).

So now that Lexi is giving me a bit more time (not much but enough for a post), I am going to try to set aside my perfectionism and write smaller more manageable posts about what our life has been. Starting from the beginning.

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    my honest answer
    March 29, 2012 at 8:34 AM

    You know what they say: The Best is the enemy of the Good.

    If you never get started for fear of not doing it perfectly, well, you’ll never get started!

    Get some thoughts down in the those 15 minutes, you can always add to them later!

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    Elena C.
    March 29, 2012 at 9:04 AM

    Yesssss! Yes to quick posts!
    They’re gonna be spontaneous, emotional, full of your current thoughts!
    You know how when you over think something it’s not as authentic, original and emotional anymore,
    it’s more of an premeditated narration 🙂
    This way you’ll be even more willing to share quick stories with cupel of pictures, not to lose those precious moments!

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    Kat H
    March 29, 2012 at 9:26 AM

    I am so glad to hear this! I love reading your blog, but I’m not pregnant, so the baby finds aren’t something I particularly need to know right now. I still love reading about them too though. The baby fashion and your fashion is so fun. I can’t wait to read more about your wonderful experiences.

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    Jessie
    March 29, 2012 at 10:22 AM

    I totally relate. I have a blog and I do it solely to document my memories because it is quicker to type than write. I keep baby books with 3 littles ones and it literally impossible to keep that up. 🙁 And then like you said..you forget and it makes me feel guilty but hey. At least I try. I know many who say they don’t even do that. So all you can do is give it an effort. I always have friends and family asking why I don’t post on Facebook…well because I don’t have time to do that, keep my blog current, well and work, and raise three children. Hah..it’s a lot.

    I say post what is important to you and if people don’t like it…they can stop reading

    🙂 I’m still enjoying your journey as a new Mommy….
    Jessie

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    Laura
    March 29, 2012 at 10:28 AM

    I’ve been following your blog religiously since I discovered it about midway through my pregnancy– just had my little guy 19 days ago (all natural– woo hoo!). I was initially struck by how similar our ‘prebaby’ prep was: my baby’s stuff is also all organic as was my mostly vegan (occasionally veg) pregnancy diet. We also did hypnobirthing prep (didn’t really use it on day of, but labor was very quick) and we had a doula (at a hospital birth).

    Not only was I happy to see your last post on clothing (and the diaper cream, diaper bag one), but I’d been *hoping* you’d do something like that. Part of being a mom is the fun stuff. And I take organic clothing selection and smart organic choices as seriously as I take all the other things I research (just because the result is cuteness doesn’t mean it’s less worthy of our time). I want to hear all about the products you use since I personally spend hours researching all the same stuff– was like 5 days on diaper cream. So keep up the ‘lighter’ posts. I’d be sad if they left…

    ps. As for natural labor and your comment about what it would’ve been like at the end: the pushing/ tearing alleged pain goes virtually unnoticed– you’re so compelled to push that’s the only thing you think about and a relief. The end contractions at 10 cm, however, are another story!

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    Emily
    March 29, 2012 at 11:02 AM

    Hi! I’ve been following your blog for a few months, but this is my first time commenting…. Felt compelled to because I SO empathize. I discovered your blog as I was searching for some info during my 9th month of pregnancy… I had my daughter Evelyn on Feb 6th, and it’s my first child so I really REALLY enjoy your blog as it all feels so relatable right now — so real. And I get the time crunch situation… I hardly get more than 5 hours sleep in a 24 hr period, and yet I hardly have time to do many of the things on my to-do list beyond being Evie’s mom. I have my fingers and toes crossed that I (we) are right around the corner for that to ease up 🙂 if nothing else, that keeps me going! So I guess I’m not really saying much more than don
    T beat yourself up- I think you’re doing an amazing job with this crazy balancing act… And please keep posting as it does give me a lot of excitement when I see a fresh entry posted 🙂
    Emily

    PS … Noticed you swing in this last post and we have the same one but mine LOATHES it and I can’t figure out why?!? I so wanted her to love it, but seems she is really only happy in our arms or being worn (thankful for that at least!)…. Did your daughter take to the swing right away? I’m open to any advice.

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      Emily
      March 29, 2012 at 11:04 AM

      Sorry for the typos! One-handed typing as I’m sneaking this in while I nurse 🙂

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    Megan V
    March 29, 2012 at 11:37 AM

    Elena! I love hearing you come to this conclusion! I think writing smaller and more frequent posts will actually help your block. More stream of consciousness, rather than professional essay. I did read that comment that triggered this post and to be honest it quite annoyed me. I feel that if you don’t like a blog then just stop reading it. Bloggers are not dj’s that play the songs you request. Well, they CAN be, but it’s much more authentic when the blogger writes what is in their heart, and not just what they think readers want to read. I actually think you already do a good balance of both! You write for you, to record your thoughts and feelings and favorite moments and research you’ve done. But you do also think a lot about the readers, which is so clear with your thoughtful giveaways and product reviews and sharing your advice. Personally I like both kinds of posts from you! I love hearing your experiences with parenting so far but I love the posts of products you love too. Especially if they’re natural healthy products, which are much harder to find! P.s. we have that same baby swing! 🙂

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    Tara
    March 29, 2012 at 11:53 AM

    I loved all these pictures! And this post! I am really excited to hear about it all! and it will be perfect! (even if not in your eyes) 🙂

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    Lara
    March 29, 2012 at 12:16 PM

    I think you’re being a little hard on yourself! Post whenever and about whatever you feel like! When you feel ready to tackle the “big” posts, you’ll know 🙂

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    Ali
    March 29, 2012 at 12:26 PM

    Hey, not to be a Debbie Downer or anything, but just a heads-up. We have the same swing you do (In the last picture) and I just want, for the safety of Lexi, for you to be aware that they should be buckled in. My son flipped over at 2 weeks old and nearly fell out because I didn’t have him buckled in. I didn’t think he’d be able to flip that young, but sometimes they surprise you with their strength.
    I don’t want this to come across as criticizing or nitpicky, I just want to avoid babies getting hurt.

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    Tatum
    March 29, 2012 at 1:35 PM

    I just discovered your blog, and am so glad that I did. As a blogger myself, I can relate to what you are saying about so much to say that you end up not saying much at all sometimes! I like the idea of shorter posts.

    LOVE the pics on your blog… gorgeous. Best of luck to you!

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    Rachel
    March 29, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    I totally know what you mean Elena. Completely understandable…it’s how I feel too. Just do what you can, and hopefully it’ll be the kind of log/ journal you’re hoping for! Never mind the readers (but thank you for thinking of us!) 🙂

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    Abby
    March 29, 2012 at 3:33 PM

    Your pictures are beautiful, Elena, and I love reading your blog. But really, don’t most babies have nipples?

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      March 29, 2012 at 3:46 PM

      I had to look hard to find it. I actually got freaked for a second 🙂 It’s there but it’s super pink and faint. The light from the window must have overexposed it slightly lol

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    ecl
    March 29, 2012 at 3:44 PM

    That first photo of you and Alexis is beautiful!! It looks like her hair is getting lighter. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s a blonde toddler.

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    Bree
    March 29, 2012 at 4:43 PM

    I think your idea of shorter blog posts is a good one. Not that I don’t like the product reviews because its always nice to have an honest opinion on items one is looking for for their child. But seeing as Lily is 6 days younger then Alexis, its nice to hear about another mom in generally the same area (I live in South Florida as well) who has some of the same concerns as I do.

    PS. I think that swing was the same one I wanted when i was first looking, but I read some reviews on it being a fire hazard which freaked me out. http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Papasan-Cradle-Swing-Starlight/product-reviews/B000I5UZ1Q/ref=cm_cr_pr_btm_link_next_2?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=0&filterBy=addOneStar&pageNumber=2
    Just thought I would share so you can make sure your swing is one of the good ones.

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    Teagan
    March 29, 2012 at 6:41 PM

    ok, so obviously this is just my silly little non-mom opinion, but I say just start pumping out those short little this-moment-just-happened posts. all of the detail-fact stuff, I love that stuff, you are turning me into one of the most informed women ever, and I love it, but those are in no way as important as the precious moments you’re getting now that you want little snapshots of in the future. You are one of the most generous bloggers I know, so free with your time, attention, information, heart, but I say it’s ok to make blogging your scrapbook for a while. Let the preservation of this time be your priority. Write things that you’ll be excited to go back to & show Alexis as she’s growing.
    And you know you’re amazing, right?
    🙂 xoxoxo

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    Amanda
    March 29, 2012 at 7:24 PM

    You look great, the baby weight just fell off!

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    Megan Robinson
    March 29, 2012 at 8:03 PM

    She is so precious!!! Oh I love her!

    And I love what you said that although you can definitely write more about parenthood and your baby and such, motherhood doesn’t define you and you are still an individual who has certain likes that you want to talk about. I love your blog no matter what so I’m excited to see where you decide to take it 🙂

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    Leesie
    March 29, 2012 at 8:20 PM

    Hello,
    Not to rude or crude, but where are your babies nipples? Is this a birth defect? I’m really curious about what sort of complications this could cause in the future.

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    Rockie
    March 29, 2012 at 9:26 PM

    Elena I have to say this is one of my fav blogs bc it’s so informative and resourceful from the product reviews to pregnancy/post pregnancy posts! I’ve picked up so much! Thanks 🙂

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    Michele
    March 29, 2012 at 9:54 PM

    Your stunning photography is what brought me to your sites.
    Your an inspiration.
    Live in the present, enjoy every bit of your motherhood adventures and thanks for sharing.

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    Terra Cotta Momma
    March 29, 2012 at 11:14 PM

    people are so funny, I didn’t even notice the ‘no nipples’ thing, I mean… really? I was looking at the big beautiful eyes on your daughter not looking at her nipples… LOL, anyways where are your nipples Elena? haha ok I am just poking fun at them but only in jest!

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    Aimee
    March 30, 2012 at 7:55 AM

    Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous, seriously! Her eyes are so full of expression, it’s like she’s trying to tell us that she has so much to say but can’t figure out how to make the words come out. I’ve been following your blog and my last baby is turning 8! I have to say that I wish blogging was so big back when I was pregnant because I’m learning so much about the items you’ve purchased for your daughter. The organic clothing is gorgeous and for some reason I had thoughts that they’d be plain and boring, like seed sacks lol. The organic baby toiletries are impressive as well. When my babies had red bums, we would dry them with a hair dryer on warm (never never hot enough to burn them) and they loved the warm air on their bottoms, then we’d apply Boudreax’s Butt Paste and it always worked. As for the posting, please don’t try for perfection–as most mom’s know, the spontaneous postings can be the most fun to read. It’s nice to see someone going through the same things we are (or did) and the reactions to it. And really–you’re going to have people criticizing you no matter what–perfect or not–you just need to filter through the negative (and remember that they is how these people are in real life) and know that you are ‘talking’ to those that are really interested!
    p.s. my addiction in babyhood was ALWAYS diaper bags. I had soo many of them it was crazy. I figured that this was my ‘purse’ for the next few years and I wanted them to be spectacular lol!

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    Verna
    March 30, 2012 at 2:00 PM

    Love all the pictures! She is so sweet!

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    Rebekah Wallace
    March 30, 2012 at 10:55 PM

    I think it is very easy to get caught up in trying to do everything and I commend you for giving yourself some space. You haven’t been slacking off, you have been learning to be a mom. Things will fall into place and people who love reading your thoughts will still be back here, polished or unpolished. blessings on your beautiful baby!

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    Les @ LPN Salary
    March 31, 2012 at 2:00 AM

    Yes, I wonder how all those moms find the time to have blogs! There are too many mommy blogs out there! Not that I’m complaining, they are actually very, very helpful. 🙂

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    Kaylan
    March 31, 2012 at 11:43 AM

    I love your blog and think you’re doing a great job keeping up with posts! I’m due in May and have been bookmarking many of the products and things you share, so keep it coming. 🙂

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    Krista
    March 31, 2012 at 1:59 PM

    Hi Elena
    Once again, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your pictures–they are just gorgeous.

    I don’t blog but I do keep a handwritten journal for my daughter (she’s 20 months old), so I know it’s tough to keep up with it. Most times I jot down little notes of cute things she says or does and then go back and write an actual entry when I have time. Sometimes my entries are 3 sentences and sometimes they are 3 pages. Anyway, the point is, I think your idea of shorter posts will really work well for you. I love reading about your day to day life with Lexi–it makes me miss those precious baby days. None of your readers (at least not me) expect perfection, so don’t be so hard on yourself!

    Keep em coming Mama!

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    before baby lady
    March 31, 2012 at 8:07 PM

    Lexi is so beautiful! I have really enjoyed reading your blog and hope you’ll come read mine! In the next few months, we will start trying for a baby of our own. I would love if you would follow along!

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