Alexis Weeks 1,2,3 + Postpartum Update

Since I’m so behind on weekly updates, I’m going to lump them all together.

Postpartum update

Week 1 and 2 Photos (I totally forgot to take front ones for week 1- we were so exhausted I’m surprised I actually took a picture). Click on them to see large.

Since there has been no change, I won’t be posting further pictures. However, once I start working out, I might resume the progress shots if there’s any noticeable change that can be seen through photos.

 

Recovery

My recovery has been amazing. Honestly, there was not much to recover from. I had no pain, super light bleeding that virtually stopped after the first week. My butt was sore for a bit from pushing and sitting on my glider all day long but nothing bad enough to even take ibuprofen for. I had no afterpains, or any other pains. My body was sore for a total of two days after we arrived home and then I went back to feeling completely normal.

Body

My belly took about a week to contract back leaving me with a nice fat-ish stomach for week 2 and 3.
After delivery I immediately lost 20 lbs and since then not much at all. It actually took me a week to even remember to weigh myself.
At this point I still have 17 lbs to loose to get to my pre-pregnancy weight but I don’t see myself taking the time to actively work on it until Lexi is out of her fourth trimester.
Luckily it doesn’t really bother me – I’m happy with how I look for now. In a month or so I’ll start trying to slowly get toned and fit again.
One thing that has been strange (and does need to be worked on soonrer than later) is the layer of fat left over from the pregnancy. I have never in my life had a fat roll on my stomach when sitting down. It’s not necessarily my “accomplishment”, to be honest- it’s that my body just doesn’t store fat in my stomach area. Legs-yes, but not my abs. So it was almost “cool” to be able to grab onto something squishy there (cool for one second and then it had to go).
The almost four weeks of exclusive breastfeeding have done nothing to reduce my fat stores or weight, probably because of my mom’s cooking and my mostly sedentary lifestyle (I either breastfeed or lie down with Lexi all day so that she’d sleep)

What else? My boob size has exploded like predicted. Hubby is digging it!

Oh stretch marks! I’m happy to report that I got out of the pregnancy battle unscathed!
I was hoping I wouldn’t get any but I really didn’t think I’d be so lucky!

Whether it’s mostly genetics or the diligent use of Mama Mio oil and proper hydration helped, I don’t have a single mark on my body.

My linea negra is still partially there but I figure it’ll fade over time.

Emotions

Again, it seems that, just like in pregnancy, postpartum hormones have not been messing with me much.
Of course, the initial weeks have been more emotional than normal. Of course, the pain and challenge of breastfeeding coupled with lack of sleep did mean I was frustrated easily, however it was nothing out of line. Times when I got upset and frustrated would have been just as frustrating and upsetting whether I had given birth or not (trying to teach a proper latch while in horrible pain at every latch-on, not understanding your new baby’s cries yet, all the usual suspects of being a first time mom).
Possibly my pleasant birth experience and non-existent recovery are responsible for lack of baby blues or maybe I’m not that susceptible to hormones ( I never got emotional during pregnancy either). And now that things are getting figured out I’m happier than ever.

Having a newborn

It’s really not THAT hard, taking care of a newborn. They have limited needs and desires and all you have to do is cater to them. That is if you’re properly set up with familial support, financial security, no rush to get back to work, etc. Of course, as soon as you introduce an “extra wrinkle”, things can become hard to handle physically and emotionally: twins, health issues, difficult recovery, single mom, no family around, another kid, having to go back to work.

What makes it hard even in an ideal postpartum situation, however, is lack of experience.
Not knowing whether your baby’s cry means she’s hungry or sleepy, not knowing if she’s in pain, not knowing if what you’re experiencing is normal or there’s some kinda of problem, not knowing if fast breathing, coughing, spitting up, extended belly, red rash, loud cry, frequent feedings, grunting while sleeping are normal for newborns (all normal btw). That’s the hardest thing! Worrying that your baby is ok is the most difficult part of taking care of a newborn (unless you have one that just sleeps all day and doesn’t bother you with “issues”)

We have dedicated ourselves to keeping Alexis as comfortable as possible even though it means breastfeeding every 30-40 min during the day or waking up every hour at night or holding her all day because that’s the only way she’ll nap and baby girl needs her sleep.

Alexis Update

week 1

week 2

week 3


{organic footie is by Finn&Emma}

She’s been doing the following things since week 2:

  • smiling
  • holding her head well during tummy time
  • oohing and aaahing and even a few agoos
  • attempting to talk to us ( you should see her mouth move and her little brain trying to figure out where her tongue  goes)
  • being a demanding little girl (ok, she had this one downpat since birth)

New week 3 developments:

  • her gaze follows objects and people
  • greets me with a smile 70% of the time
  • has a very strong grip
  • finally notices objects in the mirror
  • slept a “whole” 2.5 hour stretch at night (woohoo!)
  • took her first “mommy and me” bath –  It is SOOOO the way to bathe her. We both get into the tub and she lies on my chest while Andrew washes her. She enjoys it SOOO much you should see it! At the end of a bath, I take her and float her in the water- I think it reminds her of the womb.
  • finally liked her Moby and took her first trip into town to pick up sushi while hanging out in her wrap, got a ton of attention from passerbys and slept  right through it all
  • has developed a really funny demanding pre-cry (I’ll post a video some time)- it’s a one syllable “AH!”

 

General preferences:

Footie by Finn&Emma

  • LOVES after nap stretches ( potyagushki)
  • is mesmerized by her black and white board
  • finally paid attention to her first book: The Circus McGurcus
  • if in the mood, really enjoys full body infant massages
  • really doesn’t like going to sleep.  Who wants to miss out on all the action?
  • the boob is her BFF! She eats and eats and eats and then wants more!
  • has improved her latch immensely. It was  difficult training her but it’s so worth it
  • loves talking to us. We have full on “conversations” with that girl.
  • doesn’t mind her diaper being dirty. If she wasn’t a loud pooper, we’d never know she has a dirty diaper.
  • loves her grandmas

What we’ve been up to this week:

  • reading a ton of newborn and baby development book ( luckily I have a ton of time while breastfeeding and a nook app on my iphone). FYI, I’ll be making a list of worth while books the same way I did for pre-pregnancy and pregnancy here (which still needs to be updated, since I read a lot more than listed)
  • not taking showers
  • eating more sweets than I should 🙂
  • taking every opportunity to snuggle with my baby
  • taking more photos than I can ever go through and yet feeling like I haven’t been taking enough.
  • took our first family photos and totally sucked every single one of them up. Wow, self-portraits with a newborn is a bitch and Alexis is way too needy of a girl to ever pull it off. I can’t imagine having someone else take photos either because she doesn’t give us a second of a cute face when we need it.

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68 Comments

  • Reply
    Jamie
    February 26, 2012 at 8:38 PM

    It sounds like everything is going wonderfully. You are going to continue to have ups and downs but I love hearing how “in tune” you are trying to be with her. I feel like I battled my daughter unnecessarily when she was a newborn because she was “harder” than all of my friends babies. You look amazing and she is gorgeous.

    • Reply
      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 26, 2012 at 8:57 PM

      I found THAT to be the hardest thing. Having all other babies do one thing and yours- completely different. You aren’t sure if it’s normal or something is wrong. Giving into the “that’s how she is so I’ll go by her needs” is really freeing!!!

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    04892824005088712288
    February 26, 2012 at 8:41 PM

    She is sooo cute! Congratulations. I can tell that you are enjoying this new chapter.

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    12096180958861245388
    February 26, 2012 at 9:03 PM

    (New to comments, but been following since you conceived) She looks so attentive and alert! I am really happy for you guys!! This blog has been such an enormous help for me as my husband and I are planning TC at the end of this year. THANK YOU – Maja

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    Jessie
    February 26, 2012 at 9:18 PM

    I love reading your experiences. I have a 4 week old and I can so relate to much of this. Best of luck and I look forward to reading more updates. I love your homesty also. People (Moms) need to hear the truth. 🙂

    J

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    Deanna
    February 26, 2012 at 9:19 PM

    its called “go with the flow” parenting. You HAVE to……because comparing your baby to another will make you 2nd guess everything….–well, comparing yours to what they SAY is happening…because honestly I would question anyone who says “my child slept thru the night from the time they came home, nurses every 2 hours and that nursing time is magical, and they are the bestest baby ever………., blah blah blah blah blah” because they are LYING or at least trying to convince themselves that thats how their lives are. Yeah, my 2nd slept thru the night at 2 weeks BUT she’s a insanely needy child. If she gets bored with something she starts screaming. My 1st? If he got bored with something, he fell asleep. My 1st didnt make a mess while eating ….ever. We put a bib on him because we felt we should. My 2nd makes a tornado aftermath look neat. EVERY baby is different…..even ones from the same parents. Your #2 could be a dream sleeper…..who eats every 2 hours…..you never know.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 26, 2012 at 9:39 PM

      Much easier on parents that way, too!
      I love knowing I’m doing everything to make her happy. Beats trying to conform her to our schedules and needs.

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    Jolene (www.everydayfoodie.ca)
    February 26, 2012 at 9:34 PM

    I absolutely LOVE your posts 🙂 You look fabulous, and prove all the haters wrong … people LOVE to be negative about other people’s pregnancies and tell them how it is going to be, and I cannot stand that. I hear it already alllll the time, and I am not even pregnant yet! You are good proof that things are NOT the same for everyone, and people should stop telling young ladies what their pregnancy and life will be like.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 26, 2012 at 9:42 PM

      You’re very right! But I knew that my experience would be nothing like anyone else’s. People project their own fears and bad experiences onto others- it’s always been that way.

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        Kay
        February 26, 2012 at 11:07 PM

        I’m not sure that it’s accurate to say your experiences were nothing like anyone elses. There are plenty of people that have easy pregnancies, great births and bounce back (relatively quickly) to pre-pregnancy shape. I was one of those people. It’s just that people love to freak you out by telling these horror stories. I just found that it was best to just nod and smile and move along. So much of pregnancy is attitude, that people that tell horror stories probably had a hard time in part because they had a bad attitude.

        Regarding the tummy roll – I was very fit (former collegiate runner) prior to getting pregnant and ran up until the day my son was born. That roll of fat you have on your stomach is probably not all fat – it’s also loose skin. I gained under 25 lbs when I was pregnant and still had that roll. I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight within two months, but am still working on that stubborn roll. It does continue to get better, however.

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          Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
          February 26, 2012 at 11:11 PM

          Yes it’s definitely accurate to say that my experience is unique. Just like everyone else’s. It’s not about easy or hard, it’s about no one person’s experience being exactly the same.

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    00502373740315635689
    February 26, 2012 at 9:49 PM

    I’m still oohing and ah-ing over her AWESOME hair! And those lips!!! CUTIE!

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    11885713983046877285
    February 26, 2012 at 9:53 PM

    Glad to hear things are going so well! People used to get pissed at me when I told them I thought having a newborn was easy (except for the recovery part but I had 3rd degree tearing with too many stitches for the docs to count and bleeding for 8 weeks) but other than that I thought the actual baby stage was easy. Dealing with a toddler/preschooler attitude and tantrums? Whole different story 🙂 I might be eating my words here in about 8 weeks if this baby girl isn’t as ‘easy’ as her brother was. Plus now I have a busy busy 4 year old as well and won’t have the luxury of laying around holding a baby the whole time like I did with Jasper so I might take this comment back then!

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    Erica
    February 26, 2012 at 10:12 PM

    You look great! I should be having my baby girl any day now and I hope my belly shrinks up as fast as yours! I want my old clothes back!

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    Meegs
    February 26, 2012 at 10:47 PM

    You look good. I never had belly fat before baby either, but now I have some. Your body just changes in subtle ways when you have babies. Also, when breastfeeding your body will “hold on to” a little bit of extra fat stores, so it can be sure to have enough for you and baby. So that may contribute to the extra belly jiggle being a little harder to rid of.

    Alexis is beautiful and I’m glad you’re enjoying her. They grow so dang fast!!

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    Tilly
    February 26, 2012 at 10:57 PM

    Oh your experience reminds me SO MUCH of what I experienced with my daughter. She’s a total “grazer”. I felt like she was constantly BFing as a newborn. & the sleep! Oh, the sleep! I found that comparing my daughter to other babies is what made me feel overwhelmed. Once I did what was best for her is when life became easier. Your honesty here is a breath of fresh air. Congrats on your beautiful daughter!

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    Sam
    February 26, 2012 at 11:18 PM

    Really glad to hear that things are going well! While I agree with you that, in a vacuum, caring for a newborn is not that hard, I gotta say that mine was. He was (is) a very intense child in every way.

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    Rebecca
    February 26, 2012 at 11:50 PM

    She is such a cute baby!! I loved this update post. You really look amazing for 2 weeks postpartum. I had a baby 2 years ago and you and I have really different physiques (I’m 5’3″ 105 lbs at baseline — petite, not modelesque whatsoever), but I also gained 40 lbs. I’m a runner and an athlete and lost all my baby weight pretty quickly but my stomach also looked different for a long time… it was pretty rough on me because i had ALWAYS had really toned abs without even trying. Anyway, i think you look AMAZING in the 2 week picture; your stomach is so flat. And I agree w/ the other commenters about people trying to scare you about delivery/recovery. I just didn’t listen to anyone. I really wanted a natural delivery, and I did end up delivering naturally with no drugs/epidural. After I delivered my son I was up and about and felt great. I was out walking my dog a couple days later and walking on the treadmill 6 days postpartum. I felt completely normal. The birth experience was hard, I’m not going to lie — I read hypnobabies, Bradley and did a Lamaze class and none of it helped. Nothing could prepare me for how tough childbirth was; no matter what people say, it IS painful!! But I hated it when people laughed in my face when I said I wanted to go drug free. They said it would be WAY too painful, I could never do it, etc., but I did. Anyway, I also thought taking care of a newborn wasn’t as hard as i thought it would be. You just have to do what works and keep the baby happy and healthy. Over time it can be pretty hard though… my husband and I definitely had our moments. it’s definitely hard to adjust to living your life to keep a baby happy 24/7. Now that we have a 2 year old it’s a bit easier, but still hard (my husband and I are both physicians so we work long hours and have no family nearby). anyway, I look forward to future updates on you guys! Alexis is sooo precious!

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    15602457496601340341
    February 27, 2012 at 6:03 AM

    Oh I love this post! And all the pictures, especially the “proud grandmas” one! 🙂
    You look really good!
    I like the “week 3” picture of her next to the owl 🙂 Both staring lol
    I’m really glad her latch has improved greatly!

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    02438028761428013214
    February 27, 2012 at 9:12 AM

    I generally don’t comment and enjoy reading your blog, but perhaps you could say “For me it hasn’t been that hard taking care of a newborn” instead of what you said. Maybe then, you wouldn’t get as much negativity.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 27, 2012 at 10:16 AM

      Considering it’s my blog and I’m writing about MY experience “for me” part is implied. I’m not writing about or referring to anyone else.

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        Megan
        February 27, 2012 at 11:29 AM

        Except that you have stated time and time again that you want to write to inform others so a little wordsmithing for all those soon to be new mommas out there that may not have the super easy situation you have (at home dad, two grandmas doing everything, the luxury to just nurse all day long) would be helpful to them. Wouldn’t want new moms to go in expecting something that isn’t going to happen for everyone.

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          Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
          February 27, 2012 at 1:01 PM

          I haven’t stated i write to inform. I write because I like to and because in the beginning I wanted all the prenatal research not to go to waste in case someone finds it useful. At this point there’s nothing I write about that’s purely “informational”- it’s morphed into a personal experience blog when I got pregnant.
          That being said life with a newborn IS hard. It’s just not THAT hard (as in “not as hard as I thought it could be).
          And if you read, I specified what it is that IS hard about taking care of a baby.
          And that was followed by “if your situation is… ”

          And once again I’ll state that if I were to worry about every single person who might get offended or get the wrong idea by my wording, I’d stop writing or turn this into a fake blog that writes only nicey nice things rather than the truth and record my experience of bringing up my daughter which is my goal.

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          Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
          February 27, 2012 at 1:04 PM

          Oh and 1 grandma. The other one was just visiting for 2 days.
          (ps.: my mom is responsible for cooking and laundry and I honestly can’t imagine how we’d do in the early weeks without her)

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          Keri
          February 27, 2012 at 4:35 PM

          Honestly I was a single mom, 600 miles away from ANYONE I knew, and had to go back to work 3 weeks after my son was born (my boss let me bring him with me for about 3 months), and I didn’t really think having a newborn was all that hard either. They eat, they sleep, and they poop. They don’t get into stuff like a toddler, or have homework that needs your help like elementary school kids, or call you 57 times on the phone to ask 700 different questions and then act sassy when you don’t give them the answer they want like a pre-teen. My son is 12 now and some days I’d give ANYTHING to go back to those first few months because compared to having a kid in junior high? Babies are a CAKE WALK.

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        Misty
        February 27, 2012 at 11:57 AM

        I only recently found this blog, pretty much a few days before you had her, and have never commented before, but I just wanted to say that you absolutely do not need to reword everything. As you said, it’s your blog and your experiences. I do understand, though… I had a pretty easy recovery too and went around telling everybody I didn’t see what was so hard about having a baby! haha. And I had it even better than you cuz the kid latched like a pro. But then he was 5.5 weeks early and we had do deal with jaundice and staying in the hospital for a week, and all that… so we all have our own things to deal with.

        And he’s 5 months old now and I still love every minute of it! I think it will definitely be harder next time around when he’s 2 or 3 and we have a new baby… lol. The hard part for me is having to be back at work. But his dad takes care of him (he’s a photographer so he arranges his schedule to keep him while I’m at work), and I’m eternally grateful to leave my sweet boy with his daddy every day.

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    Anon
    February 27, 2012 at 1:05 PM

    I would love to be the magical Elena. For birth and recovery to be nothing but rainbow dust and sparkles, good for you for having your perfect pregnancy and perfect delivery and the perfect recovery. Nothing would ever be less than perfect for you.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 27, 2012 at 1:46 PM

      Lol
      My pregnancy wasn’t perfect- I was sick as a dog the first 3 months.
      My delivery was good but not perfect by far.
      I can only claim my recovery as close to perfect and even there I’d like to have magically lost ALL the weight within the first two weeks! 🙂

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    Macy
    February 27, 2012 at 1:36 PM

    My baby had a bad rash just like Alexis’s! Luckily, it went away within a week. Do you know what’s causing it?

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    Elena
    February 27, 2012 at 3:08 PM

    I’m six month pregnant, and have been reading your blog for a while. I love it, and I Iook forward for your every next post 🙂
    I’m very much interested to see how you are and will be returning to pre-pregnancy shape – I know it’s different for everyone, but I’m still very much pleased to see how quickly your tummy went back to normal, and hope it will work as well for me too 😀
    I have actually learned much about pregnancy and newborns from your blog, even that I read a lot about it from different sources. But someone’s ACTUAL experience is something different than general information about how it should be :))
    I really don’t get where those negative comments come from, and why?!

    P.S. Alexis is so so so adorable!!

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    Noel
    February 27, 2012 at 4:37 PM

    I do not think that photo is real in the slightest. There is no way that your stomach is that flat 2 weeks pp. I am almost 7 months pp and at my pre-pregnancy weight and my abs are still not flat like they used to be. I don’t think it’s fair to post photoshopped pictures like this for other women to see so that they are disappointed when NONE of them look like that 2 weeks pp. I think you showcase your life as butterflies and rainbows because you can’t deal with the fact that you really aren’t perfect. Nobody is. Please be real, I know a lot of people that would really appreciate it.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 27, 2012 at 5:55 PM

      Ha!

      Note to girls currently pregnant: trust me your stomach really can look this way 2 weeks pp. Don’t let people with bad experiences discourage you.

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        M
        February 27, 2012 at 11:25 PM

        Just because my stomach still isn’t as flat as it was pre-pregnancy 8 months after my son was born doesn’t mean it’s a “bad experience.” It just means everyone is different, and you should in no way compare yourself to someone who does wind up with a flat stomach a few weeks later. MOST women do NOT have a flat stomach so soon afterward. Does it make me angry, upset, envious? Nope. Sure, I hope I get it back at some point. I’ve lost all my baby weight, but have held on to fat in my stomach area where I had little to no fat before.

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        Rae
        February 29, 2012 at 12:05 PM

        While the curvature of my stomach didn’t render my post-birth experience good or bad (it seemed pretty irrelevant), I too ended up with a pretty flat one within days of giving birth. All women are different, and babies/pregnancy change your shape in more ways then one. Let’s be supportive of all these changes – comparison just sucks (for lack of a more articulate phrase).

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 27, 2012 at 6:10 PM

      Oh and just FYI, do yourself a favor and find an earlier picture of my abs pre-pregnancy. This 2 week pp stomach is a far far cry from what my abs looked like before pregnancy.

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      Erica Castillo @Mi Todo
      February 27, 2012 at 6:29 PM

      Noel,
      I’m a certified personal trainer and have trained women during and after pregnancy. It’s absolutely possible for your stomach to look “flat” two weeks after pregnancy. It typically only occurs in women who have conditioned abs before pregnancy and continue to take care of their bodies during. I can tell the pictures aren’t nearly close to her pre-pregnancy figure, but she still looks fit and not like she’s 5 months pregnant like many women do two weeks later.

      Elena,
      I found your blog back in October or so and have found it very informative. I’m only a couple of weeks behind you and eagerly expecting the arrival of my little girl. I hope you aren’t letting all these negative comments get you down. If it were me, I’d have to admit I’d enjoy them a bit. It is so obvious that they are given with nothing but jealousy because of your beautiful, happy new family. Some people can only find happiness in being jerks to be people they feel inferior to. I would take them all as compliments.

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        Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
        February 27, 2012 at 6:52 PM

        Thank you Erica! 🙂

        Yeah I definitely get a kick out of comments like that because they are so transparent.

        But I’m sure you learned as a blogger you can’t please everyone. You complain about problems, people get pissed, you share joys, people get bitter. There are all kinds….

        Good luck with your delivery!!! I’ll be reading!

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          Jenna
          February 27, 2012 at 11:32 PM

          I looked like you 2 weeks PP! I left the hospital with a flat stomach, so to the nay sayer, well, I think you’re just jealous of Elena 🙂 It’s called taking care of yourself and being healthy–and it pays off in the end (evidently!)

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      Ashley
      February 27, 2012 at 6:35 PM

      you sound bitter

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      Ashley
      February 28, 2012 at 1:21 PM

      Wow, you’re way out of line. My SIL had a baby in October and had a nearly flat stomach at 1 week PP. Yes, I was jealous but her stomach never got exceptionally large during pregnancy, and neither did Elena’s. These are NOT photo shopped and it’s easy to tell they aren’t. Just get over yourself. It’s her blog. She’s blogging about HER experience, so leave it.

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    TOI
    February 27, 2012 at 5:45 PM

    i am new here. thank you for sharing all your journey. i am a new mom and i can relate to some of what you wrote.

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    Rachel
    February 27, 2012 at 7:25 PM

    You look fantastic Elena! 😀 I know what you mean about the roll on the belly. It felt so foreign to me as well. It was shocking to be in the car with a seat belt and have a “poof” that a finger could poke into! 🙁 I don’t like it. I’m ashamed to admit that I still have some poof in my tummy, when Lillian will be 9 months old tomorrow. My stomach used to be concave and suck in under my ribcage a lot, but now, even on its flatter days, it’s even with the ribcage. I’m wondering if that’s just one of the subtle ways they say women’s bodies change after pregnancy, or if it’s extra storage since I’m still breastfeeding or what? But as a former (side-job, not as a career!) model myself, it just feels alien to have rolls on my body.I hope that doesn’t sound rude or hurtful to other people, because in no way do I judge anyone else for how they look or feel, but it’s just not what I expected of myself, that’s all.

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    Rachel
    February 27, 2012 at 7:29 PM

    I forgot to mention that I’m even under my pre-pregnancy weight, but still the “poof” in the belly. It’s strange! And honestly, even though I’m complaining, I don’t really mind! Being a mama is so worth the body changes, and then some!!!

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    Adge
    February 27, 2012 at 10:28 PM

    I have to say I am completely jealous of your post baby abs… I’m also jealous of your prebaby abs.

    At 3 weeks postpartum I looked about 4-5 months pregnant (with abs that are so NOT flat). Looking back at your bump updates, I think that right now you also look like you did when you were 4-5 months pregnant. I think people just don’t realize how thin you really were pre-pregnancy and that the “flat” belly you have now is really not flat at all in comparison.

    You look really great and I’m sure you’ll have zero trouble getting to your desired weight/shape!

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    Deirdre
    February 27, 2012 at 11:05 PM

    Elena, thanks for the post! I think it’s great that you have had an easy recovery and it is a relief to hear someone say something POSITIVE! I am 39 weeks and the number of times people have said “Just wait for your life to be over soon” or ” You have no idea how tired you’ll be…” and “Caring for a newborn is exhausting” is NOT what an almost 40 week pregnant person wants to hear! It is a relief to hear about someone’s good experience instead of just the horror stories people seem to want to share when you are pregnant. I have had a very easy pregnancy (up until the end and now it is only because I am SO pregnant that it is harder) and people almost make me feel guilty that I have not been more miserable, sick, etc. Your stomach before was flat as a board so I can see what you mean, but I think you look great for having just given birth a few weeks ago! A friend of mine who is a fitness nut has highly recommended this video which I plan on trying out: http://www.amazon.com/Anderson-Method-Presents-Post-Pregnancy-Workout/dp/B001F2APHU for abs specifically – that is if I don’t stay pregnant forever – which is about what it feels like at this point! Ha! Just thought I’d pass it along.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 28, 2012 at 12:29 AM

      Omg, the “just you wait’s”!!! I got so many of them. And you know what, barely any were true for me.
      Some were correct to an extent but never as bad as people tend to describe. Except for maybe breastfeeding, but I didn’t get too many warnings on that one.
      Good luck with your delivery and just you wait- everything will be absolutely amazing!

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    Anon
    February 28, 2012 at 11:54 AM

    I think you would lie and say everything went so well just to ‘prove’ to all the people who told you what its like to actually give birth wrong.

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 28, 2012 at 12:53 PM

      Yup! Cuz that’s why I write a blog. To prove people I don’t care about wrong and not to record this journey of giving birth to my daughter. You got me! Lol

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    Terra Cotta Momma
    February 28, 2012 at 3:37 PM

    Newborn Bliss… enjoy it momma!

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    Shannon Bolton
    February 28, 2012 at 4:47 PM

    Alexis is beautiful! It looks like you guys are doing amazingly well and settling in! I have a question- did you have any specific breast feeding books that you read, or resources for that specifically? Or did you just get information from different places?

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      February 29, 2012 at 9:13 AM

      My favorite book ( and the only one I think you need to read) is Breastfeeding Made Simple. I also read the Nursing Mother’s Companion and used kellymom.com resources for questions I had.

      Good Luck!

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        Shannon
        March 1, 2012 at 12:07 AM

        Thanks Elena! I am expecting my second, and with my son, he was a very low birth weight, and never could latch on properly. I ended up with mastitis, and couldn’t continue to breastfeed. I need this time to go smoother! 🙂 Everything will hopefully be different since it’s a different pregnancy! 🙂 Now that it’s not all new and adjusting to a first pregnancy, I’ll have more of this pregnancy to focus on things I hope will go differently. 🙂

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          Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
          March 1, 2012 at 4:55 AM

          Great! Good luck to you. Hope it works out this time. I found that reading the book before hand and then rereading it as I attempt to breastfeed was helpful.
          I still had to get a LC, because no book can really do it the way a person can show.
          But I still find it helpful to know the info.

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    Jill
    February 29, 2012 at 9:39 AM

    I am, quite honestly, disgusted & appalled at the negative and uncalled for comments. As women, we should be banding together and supporting each other, NOT tearing each other down, harrasing courageous women, and creating more undo stress. As if being a mother & taking care of a newborn is not stressful enough with all kinds of guilt, we have to deal with other women who project their negativy and insecurities onto us.

    Elena – you are doing a great job raising Alexis! You look beautiful & graceful. I respect youm, very much, for putting yourself out here and being honest & true to yourself & us.

    To all you negative commenters: we make choices every day, all day, so in that vein, if you do not like what you read on Elena’s blog, go find yourself another blog to read.

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      Susie
      February 29, 2012 at 4:10 PM

      What she said.

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    14785998810559197591
    February 29, 2012 at 4:37 PM

    i absolutely LOVE your blog. You are an inspiration for me! My husband and i want a baby very soon. You opened my eyes on how to be 100 % ready for one. I thought before it would be easy and all that. But the fact that you waited a year and research & all that is great! My husband agrees! 🙂

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    Alli
    March 1, 2012 at 12:18 AM

    You said Alexis “finally” liked the Moby. What did you do to encourage this? Using it for short periods of time around the house until she got used to it? Or was she just one day happy in it? I’ve heard it can take a little getting used to and I really really want to be able to use and love the Moby!

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      Elena @The Art of Making a Baby
      March 1, 2012 at 4:49 AM

      I found that after I put her in, walking fast immediately did the trick. She’d instantly fall asleep. Also she definitely prefers being outside in it probably because it’s not as hot as at home.
      She does tend to cry for a bit but fast walking gets her calm.

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    Caitlin Mallery
    March 2, 2012 at 4:24 PM

    Elena, you look lovely and content. I hope each day becomes more delightful, because these babies are a marvel to watch grow. My 7-month old is crawling now and it is absolutely and getting into everything. He is learning his boundaries, but with the most mischievous smile ever! As for your looks, you look like mother. My stomach also flattened quickly, but my overall body shape become much more womanly, and I must say it is very pleasant. As long as your healthy weight shouldn’t be a worry. I came within 6 pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight, when I recently found out I am pregnant with # 2. While I may not have lost all the weight, I did manage to re-tone muscle, and stay fit over all. I walked with my son as much as I could before winter. Living in Florida, I am sure the weather will be very accommodating for walking. You seem to be settling into nicely into a new family life. It certainly is a beautiful thing to see.

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    Kat
    March 2, 2012 at 10:13 PM

    When I was breastfeeding, the weight FLEW off and I was at my PRE pregnancy weight pretty early on and even LOWER than that before I finished bf. It’s amazing, the human body. The funny thing is that I LOVED the way I looked post partum almost more than I do now…something about having been through it, having a newborn, and the glow….you can’t trade that for anything.

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    cindy
    May 4, 2012 at 3:28 PM

    where is that pillow from? i have to have one for my daughter!

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